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Story time , Children Living Parent's Dream.... This particular topic hits my mind after i saw today's news , hundreds of students get straight 5As and 7As in their UPSR exam . Wow , congrats to you all .
Parents nowadays really taking care of their children , event before a child born , they already have a dream about the future of the unborn baby . Since the first day the baby born , everything done by the parents to make sure bright future of their children . Their child grow and become a adult . At that point of time , if we turn back and look at the life of the child , we can notice that , the child , all this time until he grow up be a adult , he/she has been leave the dream of their parents .
The child go to the primary school the parents choose . When finishing their primary school, the child fulfill parent's first dream , getting excellent UPSR result . In a such young age , the kind overcome all the pressure and do it for their parent . Children's exam result is of the pride collection of parents nowadays .Than the children enter secondary school . Here the children becoming a teenager . Here , the parents moll their child according to their dream , from the people they talking to until the way they dress up . When the option of Science or Arts stream come in to picture after form 3 , the parents push the children according to their(parents) dream , most of the time . Here comes the result of SPM at the end of secondary school life . This also the time the dream of the parents come true again , by the time the result come out , the parents already chose the higher education path of their child , according to their(parents) dream . Most of the time , the children also follow the path choose by their parents . Parents go back home happily , and the son/daughter go to the university or collage ,choice of their parents , carrying the dream of the parents . After few years , the children fulfill major part of their parents dream by graduated as a Lawyer , Engineer , Doctor , IT professional , and etc .
Now the teenager enter another part of their life as young man/woman . But their parents dream not finished yet . The parent's dream even include , how their children's live partner should look like . Hence , the young man/woman will married with live partner choose by their parents according to their dream . If the young man/woman have their own choice of live partner , they have to make sure all the criteria meets their parents expectation , include cast(Indians).
Now you all can see , how a child living their parents dream ? Actually most of the youngster not bad as the parents always describe . The children(youngsters) willing to live the dreams of their parents , for the happiness of their parents . At the same time , im also not saying that , parents doing something bad . Actually parents working hard for the well being of their children . What i trying to emphasis is, just give a small space to your child, so THEY CAN LIVE THEIR OWN DREAM .
Note:This post follows Malaysian education system , UPSR PMR SPM, lol . For most of you , this post wont make any sense , but few who out there who realy can feel or experienced what i try to explain , this post i specialy dedicate to you all .
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as u said 'Children Living Parent's Dream'. and u keep on telling that.. true children living for parent's dream and not for their dream..
sometimes even we given a chance to choose something, but option will be very limited or even worst only one option. ((sounds like situation in santosh subramaniam movie rite)) true... in many life!
parents never de motivate their childrens, they give them to speak, but finally they will stand on their decision and our dream... always a dream ny. never achieved :(
so now kira like we r dreaming their dreams not ours. aahakzz.. sounds funny. so, we gonna put out dreams to our childrens and expecting they will full filled it..
yenna kodumai ithu??
thx for the article.. its dedicate to me yar..
my dream to be an engineer.. but who am i now?? hahahah ~ TEACHER?? - not in my option at al. never thought i will study for teaching. anyway, happy with what a get. sometimes make others happy is consider as real happiness. well..
alamak... sorry konjo panjang aah poiducu. first time i came out with a long story... HUH!
dreaming~!
"For most of you , this post wont make any sense , but few who out there who realy can feel or experienced what i try to explain , this post i specialy dedicate to you all ."
It sounds like you are avoiding crticism, but dont worry, im not here to rebut, in fact only an idiot will deny this very common happening.
Obviously, parents push their kids so that they get a good paying jobs in the future, now if we focus on our Indian community, this is like what, the 3rd or 4th generation in Malaysia? Our forefathers started out as rubber tappers, railway mandoors, labourers and hospital attendents thn of course Indians got office jobs as clerks and supervisors, teachers ( at tht time english teachers were sent to the UK for training and were very well respected) and thn of course, tht very few Indians whom actually studied properly and did well in school managed to get places in university to do engineering, law and medicine.
Now we are nearing the 5th generation of Malaysian Indians, and so many of us are jobless. Lets face it, not everyone is interested in studying, and not every child is bright. When parents push their kids, it is simply to spur them to study harder. Not everyone who studies hard does well in exams, but by studying hard, you have taken yourself to the highest stage possible, and that's the most important thing, to show you've tried your best.
That i believe is the only logical explanation at the moment, but yes there are SOME hardcore parents whom get really worked up if their kids dont become lawyers, doctors, and engineers. Thankfully, my parents aren't like tht.
to viji:
"sometimes even we given a chance to choose something, but option will be very limited or even worst only one option"
"parents never de motivate their childrens, they give them to speak, but finally they will stand on their decision"
you tell all the things which i thought to include in the article , but im , because consider the length of the article , lol .
If i start tell my own story , i can write article already , haha.
Small part of it :
After SPM , i want be a international chef or archaeologist, but my mom din't stop me directly , but she indirectly brain wash me , to study some other thing . Than what , now i end up as an IT guy .
to the truth:
Im not avoiding any criticism, because lately im facing lots of criticism , lol . i put the note there , because everyone's personal experience and parents not same, for example , you and mis.viji .
About many people jobless and not everyone interested in studies , i agreed with that , parents make their kids study which they not interested in , and the child got poor marks because does not have own motivation and inspiration , end up as valueless graduate and unemployed .
Parents mold their child in every way what parents think best for their child. Yeah, no matter how much parents hope to see their dreams achieved by their child, childs have their own mind. Therefore how long parents go blind and neglect the "independecy of a child to choose"? after everything is set up and ready for the child like a robot, all of sudden where after graduate just like that parents give the 'you are useless look' and make them feel miserable if they dont get a good job and worse if not the job parents respect. Its a nature in my view... But overall seen few families where teenagers are actually a burden to parents. Yet only one family where the child is free to choose and regards as an asset even though that child never had follow or fullfill the parents expectation. Now thats what i call a True Family.
(No Harsh feelings to the parents, just... parents go through teen life and expect their child to not go through it. so unfair!)
Parents are actually guiding the child to follow the right path. How often do you see a child spending time reading or writing. They tend to spend most of their time playing or watching TV. Children are ignorant of the future. As such parents guide their children to divide their time between these activities.
Often I have heard those who were successful attribute their success for their hardwork, studying diligently etc, as though parents did not contribute in any way to their success. whereas those who failed often blame it on their parents for not guiding them during their childhood or forcing them to choose wrong path etc.
I have listen to my parents views all the time and now I am in a well paying job. I am not sure I could have achieved this if my parents did not play their guiding role.
I am always proud of my parents for guiding me to the correct path.
to Anonymous:
ya true , in some family parents wont voice out their expectation , but play the role indirectly to make things happen in their way . sometime the mother supportive , and father not , or other way around
to murty :
you are really a lucky man ,as most of us .
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